Grrrrr! I'm so frustrated with difficult child! My dad and his wife came to visit yesterday. My difficult child can't stand my dad's wife. I have to say she just doesn't get difficult child. Thinks all kids will respond if raised a particular way. She doesn't know how to enjoy him at all. She tries but just doesn't get it. This time though difficult child was just plain a difficult child and it was so frustrating. He absolutely cannot control himself around her. Yesterday she was going to show something to my dad and difficult child was wrong in trying to just take it because he wanted to. He called her a "B" and gave her the finger. I told him he needed to head to his room immediately, which he, of course, didn't like. Told him it wasn't an option and I had to call husband from upstairs because difficult child was starting to lose it with me. The entire time difficult child was constantly interrupting, being rude etc. A few other times he yelled at her and said she wasn't the boss of him (she does tend to try and give him directions but not in a bad way-she should probably just leave that to us). Most of the time husband tried to keep him distracted, bless his heart. It was so wearing on husband (and really on everyone). This morning my dad wanted to go to church with me and she was so mad at him, mostly I think she was upset because it would mean my dad wouldn't be there to help with difficult child and she was worried he would cause problems. difficult child loves my dad and my dad does great with him. husband kept difficult child upstairs the whole time so it ended up not being a problem. The reason I add this part of the story is on the way to church he said he didn't know why she was so afraid of difficult child. I told him it was probably the way difficult child treated her (he really was horrible to her). Still it made me wonder. I never thought of her being afraid of him, she doesn't show it but maybe difficult child senses it? I hate that what should be a fun time turns out to be so tense.