Jabber and I are back from our vacation/visit with our son. It was very pleasant. He wanted us to come his work instead of waiting for him to get off, so we did, and he took his lunch break then and we had a short visit. Later we met him and his girlfriend for dinner. He offered to pay for theirs, but we didn't allow it. Good thing since he didn't really have enough money. Two days later we picked them up early to spend the day together and they had a birthday cake and card for me. I cried, which apparently he'd bet her I would. lol. While I'm sure it was largely her idea, it's the first time he's ever done anything like that. We found a mountain lake and had a piece. It was freezing and lovely and the best birthday ever. We had breakfast the next day before we left. Physically, he hasn't changed a bit. Needs a haircut and shave, desperately needs a dentist, dresses like a slob. Somehow I expected more of a difference there. But he's holding a job, paying rent to her parents and was just a pleasure to be around. Other than letting us pay for every meal, he asked for nothing. He says he'll never come back to Missouri, and I think that's good. I'm a bit concerned he'll have issues at work if he doesn't clean up... He works at a deli...but that's his problem. His girlfriend is awesome. Only 19, but has a good head on her shoulders. She's laying out a year of college because she needs to figure out how to pay for it; and planning on a bio-chem degree and pre-m e d! She's very bright and determined to go back. She doesn't really take any crap off him...giving him "the look" when he'd say he didn't drink much, etc. I do think she's good for him. It was kind of amusing... he's such a picky eater and only really likes plain foods and she's Mexican! She teased him a lot about eating...i guess he eats out quite a lot since they only eat mexican food... and speak Spanish... which he doesn't. He'll learn. All things considered, I'd say he's doing well at the moment. Fingers crossed.