Heard from J finally

Discussion in 'Parent Emeritus' started by Abbey, Feb 28, 2007.

  1. Abbey

    Abbey Spork Queen

    It's been a few weeks since we heard from J. That is usually NOT a good sign. But, the conversation was good. He sounds good, is working day labor and paying his rent. He sounded genuinely interested in seeing me and his brother.

    He talked about how hard it is to stay on the straight and narrow, but he's comitted to continuing down that path. I told him I was proud of him, and yes...it WILL be hard for quite awhile.

    So, we'll probably visit sometime in the next month or two. It will be uncomfortable for my son and I, but I guess I have to let a small piece of the wall crumble to make any headway.

  2. KFld

    KFld New Member

    Well I'm glad he was doing good. It's always nice to get a good report. I hope he continues down this path and is truly committed to staying on the straight and narrow. I'm glad you are going to go see him soon. This way you can see for yourself how he's doing.
  3. Sunlight

    Sunlight Active Member

    you know I am sitting here smiling, Abbey!
  4. Suz

    Suz (the future) MRS. GERE

    That's wonderful, Abbey! I so hope that he continues to do well. I'm glad you held out. I hope the desire to see all of you will give J the strength and direction he needs to stay on the straight and narrow.

    Happy hugs!
  5. Fran

    Fran Former desparate mom

    <span style='font-size: 11pt'>Wow,it's been a long haul,Deb. I don't think I have ever heard an update that is this positive about him. Wow, is all that keeps going through my brain. Best of luck to him and hope the healing will begin. Hugs. Wow.</span>
  6. AliceLee

    AliceLee New Member

    I'm glad you've heard from him and he's doing well. It's good that he's able to talk with you about how hard it is to stay on the right path. That tells me he is serious about changing. I will pray that he's successful.
  7. Estherfromjerusalem

    Estherfromjerusalem Well-Known Member

    Abbey, I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.

    Love, Esther
  8. sameold sameold

    sameold sameold New Member

    Such good news. Very nice to see this post.

  9. Sue C

    Sue C Active Member

    His conversation has given you hope (I read it and it made me feel very hopeful!)!! Maybe this is the turning point...

  10. judi

    judi Active Member

    Deb - so glad you guys had a nice visit. Sometimes this is what we have to deal with - not necessarily the relationship that we want but one we can deal with.
  11. WhymeMom?

    WhymeMom? No real answers to life..

    Hope J can keep it together for more conversations with his family. Starts with small steps....thinking of you and your family.....
  12. tiredmommy

    tiredmommy Well-Known Member

    I'm glad he's reached out in a positive and appropriate manner to you. It's been a long time coming.
  13. busywend

    busywend Well-Known Member

    I thought like Fran - WOW!

    I really hope you do let a piece of the wall crumble, but if I were you, I would want someone to remind me that I am capable of building a wall. Perhaps that is slightly comforting to know you can survive building a wall again if necessary.

  14. Martie

    Martie Moderator

    Great News!

    I hope he continues down his current path.

    Congratulations and WOW!

  15. kris

    kris New Member

    <span style="color: #993399"> i have to admit, deb, that this is so not what i anticipated reading. hopefully he will continue on this path & the path will lead to some healing for your family.

    will be rattling the beads for you all.

  16. SunnyFlorida

    SunnyFlorida Active Member

    What a fantastic post! :princess: I'm really really happy for this little piece of good news in such a long time. Glad that you all will meet and share some time. Sending lots of hope that it lasts.
  17. Abbey

    Abbey Spork Queen

    Thank you for your responses. I waited two days to post as it always seems to jinx what is happening. :slap:

    I truly do want the best for him, but there is a LOT of repair to be done. I worry alot about his younger brother. He doesn't even know him, and the memories he has are not good.

    Time will tell.

  18. witzend

    witzend Well-Known Member

    I'm glad to hear that he is making the effort. I know it is difficult for all.
  19. Estherfromjerusalem

    Estherfromjerusalem Well-Known Member

    Abbey, I'm hoping for you that it will all be OK. I'll be waiting impatiently for your update.

    Good luck!

    Love, Esther
  20. hearthope

    hearthope New Member

    Wishing the best for your meeting!

    Good news gives us all hope!