I guess with difficult child being a couple of months from turning 18, I can technically post here now! LOL (Not sure if that reassures me or scares the he** out of me) difficult child won't graduate high school till Jan 09 at the earliest. I will do what I can to lay down the law and deal with things till then. (He's been getting increasingly mouthy, obstinate and oppositional the closer he gets to his 18th birthday) But unless he changes his tune considerably, once he graduates....he's out. He'll be of age then and I don't HAVE to put up with his attitude nor do I want to any longer than I legally have to. However, I don't just want to get up one day and say "Oh by the way difficult child, you're moving out today." and toss him out on his backside. husband and I have made comments to him about when he graduates, he better have a job because he's either going to be paying us rent or finding his own place. My preference is his own place because I know how it will be otherwise. Assuming he actually pays us his rent (and buys his own "extra" food, personal products, etc.) his behavior will be even worse. He's an adult and pays rent so he should be able to do what he wants. My first issue/question is what did you do to prepare your difficult child for this situation? I've heard people here talk about contracts and I'm curious about how they are worded and what is in them. Also, and I think this could be a bigger issue than difficult child's attitude, husband has a softer heart than I do when it comes to difficult child. We've talked about this and while he says he agrees with me when it comes to not having to put up with difficult child after 18 or graduation, he doesn't want him to end up on the street. My response is that we'll give him plenty of time to get ready. If he puts an effort into it and honestly tries, I will be willing to help him out some. If not.....he had his chance and he's still out. (Big talk now for someone not facing turning their child out onto the street, I know. We'll have to see how strong my follow through is) husband has been a lot better in the past year or so about realizing things more and seeing and truly understanding some of the things that I have been dealing with or telling him about in regards to difficult child. It's not that he actively avoids these types of things, but his work schedle is one that leaves me to deal with the majority of things. Also, he is guardian over his mentally ill mother and he takes care of the lionshare with her. Both of us have our hands full with difficult child's of differing ages, actually. But when it comes to kicking difficult child out (if it comes to that), I think husband is going to have a hard time doing it. Come to think about it, I think he'll have a bit of a hard time sticking to rules no matter how difficult child leaves. (Not helping him or only helping so much, not giving difficult child money or only restricted amounts...that type of thing) I've asked husband to start reading this board occasionally and he has. I think though that maybe he should really start reading the Parent Emeritus more than some of the others. I guess what I'm looking for on this part of it is suggestions, comments, advice, etc. I have a sneaking suspiscion that this will be difficult for all of us when the time comes and I welcome all the help we can get.