Hello, I am new to this, but I am trying anything I can to get answers. My difficult child has been difficult (for lack of a better word) since the day he was born. He screamed and cried non stop for the first 4 months of his life and then at the drop of a hat since then. The doctors changed formulas, but nothing helped. I had to rock him and sing all day and night. He wouldn't even let his dad hold him. Since then it has always been a struggle to get him to go to bed at a decent hour. My husband and I have always kept him on a routine and tried to give him stability. He had frequent ear infections as a baby and went through 2 different sets of tubes before they got one to work. He was hospitalized on two different occasions for high fever with no other symptoms, one of the times he ended up with roseola. He will be 4 in January, but he thinks he is already an adult. He can carry on a very in depth conversation. He has a great attention span, but he won't listen to anything I say, he's very smart. I had been telling his pediatrician since he was 2 that he was hard to discipline, but she just ignored me, but this winter at 9pm I discovered that he had opened his window, pushed out his screen and climbed out his window. His little sister was stuck in the window trying to follow him. When I found him 300 ft. from our house he wasn't scared at all!! He said he was trying to get to someone's car so they could drive him to the childrens museum! He did this because he was suppose to have gone that day, but lost the privilege because he couldn't mind. He will hit his sister because she looks at him the wrong way. His mattress is on the floor because he dismantled the frame and headboard to try and make a mountain to reach the ceiling. He will dump any cleaner that he can find on the floor. He climbs baby gates (he's around 42 inches tall), all of the locks on our rooms are removed because he would lock us out, he won't stay buckled in his car seat, he hits and yells my husband and me, If he ask a question and you don't know the answer he will keep screaming the question at you until you give him an answer. The list just goes on. Then sometimes he can be so sweet! He will hug you for no reason, give toys to his sister, tell me how much he loves me. I feel like I walk on egg shells around him because I don't know which reaction I will get from him. We took him to a behaviorist after the attempt to run away and they set up a counselor to come to our house once a week and do "anger management" with him. She says that he is always perfect for her. After he met with the psychiatrist she said he had ODD and told us to give him melatonin to help him sleep. The melatonin has been a miracle! He goes to sleep by 9 every night! He is still the same in every other area though. He told me that it makes him sad that his little sister is happier than he is and that he tries not to be sad or mad, but he can't stay happy! Sorry this is so long, my heart is just breaking for my baby. I would appreciate an and all advice!