Detach. Detach. Detach. I'm thinking I should just handle this the way I talked to him when he was in Department of Juvenile Justice- "I'm sorry son but it's your life to live, not mine, I can't make the choices for you and I can't change the consequences. I had hoped you would make better choices." Any other ideas? It sure isn't effective when he sees me more worried or caring more than he is/does.