Hi everyone, Just wanted to say what a relief it is to find this board, I have been searching for other sites for parents with children that remotely sound like mine but the worst I get is " My child wont eat vegetable, what can I do?" Pfft puh-lease, if that were the worst of my problems I'd be dancing on moonbeams... Sorry, excuse the sarcasm... lol Right now, I'm fed up with the school system, My eldest difficult child has been expelled once and suspended close to 25 times, all the while completely working the system to be able to stay home with me. He does whatever it takes to get himself suspended so he can be home. He has been on partial attendance (2hrs a day) for a yr and a half and has not had a full day at school in 2 yrs. I am sick of the site of him as he is constantly in my presence, even following me to the toilet..and his antagonism drives me to insanity. He is inelligble for what would normally be put into place here, (an SSP)because his younger brother attends one and they dont accept siblings and the other is for kids in an older age bracket than him. I currently have a Docs social worker meant to be doing everything she can to help me and both of my difficult child are seeing a child psychiatric, and have been for around a month now. The school is telling me basically I have to "sit tight" and try and put temporary measures into place until next yr when this school can take him (as he will be 10 and old enoguh to be accepted)...which is NEXT FEBRUARY!! HE LOVES IT as heis running the show and as part of his ODD loves that he has control of the situation. His father is a child in a mans body and is of absolutly no help whatsoever, but I have seriously had it and I know I will strangle someone soon. All this gets me sooooo down, just like it does you guys....there is so much more to say but at the risk of writing a 1000 page essay I will stop...lets just say any advice on medications or anything would be helpful.. and just to know IM NOT THE ONLY ONE!!!