I've wondered for a long time if part of my sons problem is bi-polar. Mental illness runs in my exs family. His sister was bi-polar, manic, schizophrenic with visions of Grandure. I have told you Difficult Child abuses adderol and I think it can trigger mania if you're pre disposed To mental illness. One big thing is Dr had put him on several different anti depressants over the last couple of years and then he would stop taking them. I know I have no control over him because he's a grown man. What I'm wondering is I've read about the dillusion and anger that can come with this. After reading it sounds so much like him. The paranoia that everyone is against him. He does all these terrible things but acts and believes he is the injured party. He is ultra generous in certain situations, (not with me). To some he seems wonderful, kind and giving. He paid to have my friends car fixed a few months ago when she couldn't afford it. Then there is a DARK side to him. Since his ex left him he has made threats of things he would do to her and her family. He has made threats to me. In another post I wrote where he just recently drove a truck into my garage with such force that my garage door came off the wall and damaged my car inside the garage. The more time goes by without him seeing his small child I believe he will get worse. I know I'm all over the place but I guess I'm curious if anyone has experience with this? Dr told him he has personality disorder but I don't know. Then there are lies he tells about me. He was abused as a child. (Lie). He told my neighbor his name was on my house (bigger lie). I don't know how scared or worried I should be. It's terrible to love someone, worry about them, cry over them and think they could hurt you. Does he have any control at all? Every little sound at night scares me. I waver between anger and hurt and fear. The hurt I have for my grandchild is almost unbearable. I don't know what to do with all this?