Ok, so today I went in to volunteer, not sure I really wanted to or not because Jane isn't going anywhere soon and she honestly does go out of her way to start trouble. This wasn't the first time and I wasn't her first. When I spoke with head honcho she told me that avoiding Jane and not speaking to her was not an option as it made everyone "uncomfortable." Apparently she asked "everyone" and a few volunteers threatened to quit over the "tension." Whatever. I really don't know a better way to not get into it with somebody who doesn't like you than to leave them alone, but head honcho had a huge problem with that. Since I knew this scenario would play out again and again with Jane, I decided to find another place to spend my free time. So I left. I had brought a great lunch...a really yummy salad...and I forgot it so now it's there and I really don't want to go back and get it. Bummer!!!! The next place I volunteer at will be temporary, at least in my mind. I will not commit long term, at least in my heart. I will do it as long as it's pleasant and I feel like I'm useful to others who need something. When that ends, I will try something else. That's the beauty of volunteering. Right now I am overly stressed because of Mr. 35 and I don't need Jane to add to the mix. How do you deal with difficult people? I have tried both telling them off and being silent and being silent seems more effective, as long as I am appropriately willing to engage them when neceessary, but it still doesn't work THAT well when somebody is just plain not going to like you. I was nice to both Peggy and Jane. Maybe I'm lacking some skills here.