Ok....I feel bad asking advice again!!!! But you helped me so nicely with the scatebaord park incident that I just had to come and ask advice again! Sorry...
My son had 2 friends here, playing playstation together...So the one child called me and says that my son was 'bullying' him by shooting with his index finger against his cheek all the time. My son said it's not true...that his friend was doing this with him all the time. So I tried to tell them in a joking way to try and play nice. This friend then said to my son that I'm being mean! This set my son of and he started screaming to his friend that he will kill him...his eyes spitting fire!
At this point (and I think this is where I went wrong?) I asked the 2 friends to leave because my son is not being polite towards them....as they stood up to leave my son started becoming verbally abusive towards me and physickly pushing me away from the door preventing me to let his friends go home. He had a meltdown and ran into the room and asked if he could talk to me and begged me to let them stay. I said that if he apologise they can stay...he was crying and said he can't, he was to embarresed.
Ok...the one friend had to leave anyway and the other one stayed to play...I apologised on behalve of my son, because pushing this would have created another meltdown.....
I suggested to my son that he must come and call me next time he feels that he is becoming to aggitated and frustrated, so that I can come and help prevent such an insident...I know I need to teach him skills to handle it himself but I don't know what/how?
Any advice?
My son had 2 friends here, playing playstation together...So the one child called me and says that my son was 'bullying' him by shooting with his index finger against his cheek all the time. My son said it's not true...that his friend was doing this with him all the time. So I tried to tell them in a joking way to try and play nice. This friend then said to my son that I'm being mean! This set my son of and he started screaming to his friend that he will kill him...his eyes spitting fire!
At this point (and I think this is where I went wrong?) I asked the 2 friends to leave because my son is not being polite towards them....as they stood up to leave my son started becoming verbally abusive towards me and physickly pushing me away from the door preventing me to let his friends go home. He had a meltdown and ran into the room and asked if he could talk to me and begged me to let them stay. I said that if he apologise they can stay...he was crying and said he can't, he was to embarresed.
Ok...the one friend had to leave anyway and the other one stayed to play...I apologised on behalve of my son, because pushing this would have created another meltdown.....
I suggested to my son that he must come and call me next time he feels that he is becoming to aggitated and frustrated, so that I can come and help prevent such an insident...I know I need to teach him skills to handle it himself but I don't know what/how?
Any advice?