when they keep coming to you for advice? So...I post a positive and negative immediately follows. How many times has that happened? Seems like I jinx whenever I feel positive. Today it's snowing and nasty and son's ride to work didn't show; he calls and I brave the snow, but in the end he decides not to go. He'd already called and they didn't really need him since they weren't going to get many customers during his shift anyway. He asks if I'll be mad if he doesn't work. I tell him it's entirely his business. I'm not the boss of him. I go home. All is calm...then the call. He's in tears. girlfriend is in the shower and he's taking the opportunity to talk to me. She's cheating. Not physically, but she has an internet boyfriend that I guess she's had for years. One of her prior boyfriend's broke up with her over this guy. Son tells me that while she was at our house on Thanksgiving she told the guy, using our wifi, that she'd rather be with him than my son. He tells me she's told this guy she loves him. She's told our son that she's stopped communicating with the internet guy, but that she won't ever let him see her phone or use her tablet, because she accuses him of "snooping". And let's face it...he is snooping...but if she has nothing to hide, why not let him see, is how he sees it. Now having been married to a controlling, accusatory man who made me cut off all contact with my old friends, I can see her point. But that doesn't change the fact that my son has reason to be suspicious and he doesn't trust her...again, with reason. I told him he should have gone to work. He says he goes to work and she goes to the library where she stays for hours using the internet. I say she needs a job. He says he doesn't think that's going to happen any time soon. He wants to know what to do. I tell him I can't say, I don't know. He has to decide if he wants to be with her and if so they have to work on this. He says there's no working on it, because she doesn't believe it's cheating, because it's only over the internet. He's scared to break up with her because the electric is in her name and he has an unpaid bill with the power company so he can't get it in his name. Besides, he doesn't want to be alone. He says he has no friends. He has no one but her. (true) He's so SAD again. I hate this. I don't want to be in the middle of this. I don't want him coming to me with problems I can't help with. I know, this could happen to even easy kids. But with them, the answer is, "If you break up, we'll help you with the power, we'll help you with the rent, we'll let you come home." There is no answer to this. I know he's 20 but he's still so immature. He was willing to forgive her past "indiscretions" after he moved back here and she had not followed yet. All I can do is nothing. I don't know how to handle this. I want a cigarette.