Husband and I drove 50 miles to see difficult child in the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) today. I thought I had told him we would see him on Sunday before we left the family meeting on Thursday. We show up for the family education session, which includes patients and families. difficult child did not share during the session. During the break he told us that he felt very uncomfortable with us there and did not expect to see us. He did not feel comfortable sharing his feelings in front of us. It came out that he would rather us leave, so we did. I plan to tell his counselor when he calls that unless we get an apology from him we do not plan to visit again. I will drive him to his next abode or around to get social services or to the doctor, but if he doesn't want to have a relationship with us, I am not going to put any more effort into it. If he wants another family meeting, we can do it over the phone. We are done. On the other hand difficult child was telling us the after care plans (program has waiting list, plan to send him to sober living till it opens up) so it sounds like he has resigned himself to go along with it.