hi so, every year husband's family does a thing on xmas eve. he goes every year. we also have had years where he sees them also on xmas day. so, this year i'll be at my families house for a bit with the girls once their finished with their dad's family. husband works till about 8ish. than he heads to his ex wife's house, and than to his families house. i do feel bad asking him to make the drive to mine, yet it really bugs meand yes i've told him how he goes to his ex's house each xmas eve, drops a pizza off kids leave it for santa. he goes in, stays a bit hangs with ex wife her family, friends. It's WEIRD. so, yea i'Tourette's Syndrome a really long drive to my families house and he probably wouldnt' get there till after 9, yet so what he'd still be there for a couple of hours. every xmas i've dealt with-this. one year he did drive to my mom's after work yet showed up at 11 because he went to ex's house first than his families than mine. he walked in and everyone was leaving. i get this is yet another couples' counseling question or issue yet we have appointment and have to wait till after new year. me i just know it's weird upsets me, i try not to let it yet how can i not? i sit at my families house as i know he's at his ex's. he claims its for the kids yet i'm like are you kidding me you see the kids on xmas day. tha's their arrangement. i just gotta say they do not know how to be divorced, never have. so intertwined even till now years later following divorce.