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Hi all of you parents of difficult children. I am really feeling overwhelmed right now. My son who is 17 was convicted of assault a few months ago. He hit his 14 year old sister and she called the police. He has to report to a youth worker and also see a psychologist every 2 weeks. B has been difficult since he started school. He would bother other children at school. He did have friends and seemed to really enjoy being with them. That stopped once he hit high school. Unfortunately his 1 friend from grade 8 moved away and the other became involved with a larger group of friends so B felt left out. B is in grade 12 this coming school year, he now goes to an alternative high school. His marks are quite good but he does need a lot of pushing to get his work done. He is now in the block program where he does a class for 6 hours everyday for 3 weeks and then he is done.
This morning we have an appointment with his psychologist. I talked to him yesterday on the phone. I feel so bad about what he said. He told me B does not belong or fit with any group of kids. He says he does not even sit like regular kids that I don't quite understand. He says he has difficulties with connecting to other kids. He didn't used to in elementary school but now he has no friends. This is heartbreaking to me. The psychologist said we must take it one step at a time. He said B is very rare. I guess he has never seen anyone like him before and he specializes in working with teens.
B has always been somewhat difficult to live with. He likes to bug and act somewhat goofy. I know he is immature. What can I do to help him? So far I take him and his sister (and any friends she brings) to the swimming pool, lake, walks by the river, lunch, shopping, you get the idea. He loves playing runescape whiich I only allow him to do in the evenings after we do stuff in the real world. He also attens tae kwon do and almost has his black belt after 5 years. He has sparred in competetions and won medals. But he has been very anxious before the competitions.
I am worried what his future will be like when he finishes school. The psychologist seems to think he needs a psychiatrist and probably medication of some sort. He is not sure exactly what is going on. I am afraid B will not ever work. He seems to be afraid to. Although he is working for the 3rd year in a row with his sister (except different shifts) at the fair.
I guess there are positives here but hearing the psychologist talk sounds like B is in trouble. I am very scared. He has seen a psychiatrist in the past and she ruled out Aspbergers and diagnosed him with ODD which seems meaningless to me. Can anyone offer me any words of wisdom or tell me what might be going on? Thank you for reading this!
This morning we have an appointment with his psychologist. I talked to him yesterday on the phone. I feel so bad about what he said. He told me B does not belong or fit with any group of kids. He says he does not even sit like regular kids that I don't quite understand. He says he has difficulties with connecting to other kids. He didn't used to in elementary school but now he has no friends. This is heartbreaking to me. The psychologist said we must take it one step at a time. He said B is very rare. I guess he has never seen anyone like him before and he specializes in working with teens.
B has always been somewhat difficult to live with. He likes to bug and act somewhat goofy. I know he is immature. What can I do to help him? So far I take him and his sister (and any friends she brings) to the swimming pool, lake, walks by the river, lunch, shopping, you get the idea. He loves playing runescape whiich I only allow him to do in the evenings after we do stuff in the real world. He also attens tae kwon do and almost has his black belt after 5 years. He has sparred in competetions and won medals. But he has been very anxious before the competitions.
I am worried what his future will be like when he finishes school. The psychologist seems to think he needs a psychiatrist and probably medication of some sort. He is not sure exactly what is going on. I am afraid B will not ever work. He seems to be afraid to. Although he is working for the 3rd year in a row with his sister (except different shifts) at the fair.
I guess there are positives here but hearing the psychologist talk sounds like B is in trouble. I am very scared. He has seen a psychiatrist in the past and she ruled out Aspbergers and diagnosed him with ODD which seems meaningless to me. Can anyone offer me any words of wisdom or tell me what might be going on? Thank you for reading this!