Ooooh it has taken me a week t o be able to settle down long enough to write this. difficult child's girlfriend calls me frantically last week that the baby is having trouble breathing. She gets someone to watch her older daughter and takes baby to hospital where baby is rapidly admitted and placed in oxygen tent. Baby has RSV and is sick! Okay, so she tries to call difficult child - no answer. Not unusual, as he doesn't answer his cell phone too often anymore when he sees its the girlfriend and/or family. So...he doesn't find out till later that night. I offer to go get him and take him to hospital and he tells me he's busy!!!!!! I am so angry that I hang up on him! Okay...long story short, baby is hospitalized for five days and difficult child sees him twice! I am so angry with this kid I could literally spit...he spouts this garbage about how he doesn't want the responsibility of a child and that family gets in the way. I am fed up with him....he wasn't raised this way. He is the most selfish, self-centered person on the face of this earth. Baby doesn't have our last name since difficult child wasn't even there at his birth. He just wasn't ready! Well, too bad! At any rate, we see baby and older child (not difficult child's child) and we take care of the kids with clothes, diapers, food, etc.. I truly admire the girlfriend - she is only 23 herself but does for the kids very well. How do you do this??? I don't contact difficult child at all anymore, so we don't talk. He doesn't work and isn't interested in supporting this child. I told girlfriend to go to court and get a court-order for child support but that is a moot point since difficult child doens't want to work. OOOOH can you tell I am so very angry....and I know there is nothing I can do...this is not right that this child won't know his father because his father is such a jerk.