I'm new here but I've been hanging around reading for quiet some time. Difficult child is 15yrs old. She recently tore the house up, yelled, cursed, and pounded holes in the wall. Destroyed hundreds of dollars worth of electronics as well. Kicked her sisters 6 & 3. Ran away 3 times this past week. Ran away last night. Brought a pocket knife into our home and threatened to use it on my husband if he restrains her again. By the way, he's her step dad since age 7. She stood in his lap as he sat on the sofa and stomped on him because he refused to give her cell phone back. She threw an deodorant can and hit me in the face. No one in my home wants to even speak to her except the 3yr old who doesn't understand what's happening. My 6yr doesn't want to be near her. My husband has become very quiet and he keeps repeating that he doesn't know what to do. This is not new to us. Its been happening since she was 4 or 5yrs old. ADHD diagnosis. It seems to have gotten worse since she acquired a boyfriend. I could go on and on but I won't because I need advice on her birthday next week. I still love her but I am so emotionally drained that I can't bring myself to go out and buy her a gift. It feels wrong after all she's done. How can I make everyone in the house pretend she's done nothing and just sing happy birthday to her? I'm having a VERY hard time with this. I feel horrible. We have made an appointment for am updated psychiatric evaluation so I'm continuing to work on helping her but this birthday thing has me stumped. Anyone else been in this situation? Sorry for the grammatical errors. I'm upset with little to no sleep and using my phone to type.