it too well. I called my Mom tonight. She had emailed and asked about difficult child and about this cookout she and her friends had invited me to. I told her that I didn't think I would be very comfortable because we didn't have a lot of extra time to fit in and mainly because we'd never met them. I told her that I felt it would be like going from 0 to 100 in one day. She said a few times that they are just good people and they offered and meant well. I said I understood and I had no problem meeting them. She just kept on, so finally I said "look, any time in the past when I am with you and someone else you know, trouble ensues- and I don't want it anymore- I cringe at the thought of it and I'm not willing to put myself in that position anymore". She got pretty quiet then said that she would handle it, that she'd just tell them we'd try to do it some other time. So, I said then that is just prolonging going from 0 to 100 some other time. I suggested that she tell them that I thought it would be too much for everyone to plan a dinner, given that we'd be tired and they have to work that day, and invite them over for a while to meet. Then, maybe next time we'd do something more. She was just quiet and said she'd handle it. Then, she asked if anything had come up or happened lately. That leaves the doubt in my mind that she is communicating with bro, still. You'd have to know her - but she's never gotten quiet like that before unless she knows she's getting caught up into something she's stirred in. I hope that isn't the case this time, but I wouldn't be shocked.