Hello all. Please help. My easy child son is 6 yo, a wonderful boy, warm, sweet, has many endearing qualities. He cries at sad commercials, he hates the movie "Gremlins" cried endlessly for "Gizmo", he felt horrible for him, when all the other Gremlins turned evil. He is a funny character my son. My dilemma: There is a little boy in his class (difficult child), not diagnosed yet, but on his way to ODD. I am friends with his family, wonderful people. They know all about my difficult child and what we go through. I can't for the life of me get my easy child son to be empathetic towards this little boy. He just doesn't like him, says he is a "bad boy" and will not be his friend. I often tell him that he doesn't have to be friends with him, but he absolutely has to be kind and respectful towards him. So I had a great birthday party for my son and invited this little boy. My son fought me tooth and nail, did not want him at his party!!!! Every guest list I wrote he crossed his name off. I felt bad. So we're at the party and the little boy was playing fine. His mother came over to me in tears and asked to talk. She over heard my son telling another of his classmates that he did not want this little boy at his party and that he does not like him. Well, needless to say I wanted to die. Out of the mouth of babes!!!! I felt horrible as I know all to well what that feels like. His mother knows that I empathize with her and her son. She knows all about my difficult child. Many many times I had to leave a function crying because all the kids treated my difficult child horribly. So I totally get where she is coming from. That being said, I really kind of felt it was inappropriate for her to confront me at the party. I mean what was I supposed to do? Make an issue out of this at his own birthday party? I think, being as though we're friends she could have either waited until after the party to talk to me or called me. At the same time I know how much that hurts, when your child is rejected by their peers. I have been on both sides of this fence. Anyway, I have tried to explain to my son that this little boy cant help his behavior to no avail of course. How can a 6 yo really comprehend the difficulties of difficult children? Am I reading too much into this? Any suggestions how I can make my son more understanding of this little boy and his problems? The wierd part is that my son handles his difficult child sister very well, he knows she does'nt mean to be abrasive, he loves her to death. Thanks for any advise.