I have a 5 year old son that has had behavioral issues for a couple of years now. He's had a tough time socially in Kindergarten (i.e. hitting, spitting, etc.) He is a very smart little boy and academically he is doing very well. He's reading at about a 3rd grade level. He is just so exhausting when it comes to interacting with people. He's angry, impatient, aggressive, etc. Through a lot of reading on the internet, I have come to the conclusion that he might have ODD. We recently just started having him see a child psychologist to see if we could get some help. My problem is this: In all of the reading I've done on ODD, it says a major contributing factor for children having this disorder is ineffective parenting. I am soooo frustrated because I feel like my parenting style is more consistent with how you should parent a child with this problem, but I can't seem to get my husband to try to do the same for any length of time. He can be patient and consistent for only so long before HE blows up. I think it just contributes to the vicious cycle we can't seem to get out of. We have 5 children and all of them exhibit different levels of this same behavior, and that is what makes me think our parenting methods definitely could be contributing. Our teenage son, who we really have never had a lot of trouble with has really been difficult this past year. He's emulating so many of his father's behaviors, but my husband can just not see it, nor does he see a need for his own behavior to change. Either that, or he just can't. We have lots of talks about how we need to change our behavior to change our children's, but then it never lasts. I am definitely not a perfect parent by any means, but I wish my husband and I could be on the same page. I know modeling appropriate behavior is very important in dealing with difficult kids, but what if only one parent is trying to do it? It just seems like a losing battle. Has anyone had this experience? What do you do? HELP!