I've beeen lurking for a while and this seems like a great board A little history about our family. My brother is the bio father of my difficult child, he walked out on difficult child and the bio mom when difficult child was only three. Not long after the bio mom nosedived into drugs ect really bad and I got custody of difficult child when he was four. My brother has never tried to contact us and has conviently "forgot" he even has a son. We have never recieved any child support, and do not get any government support in any way. My brother has apparently cleaned his act up, remarried, got a job, and now has 2 daughters. Still he has never bothered to contact us. My issue is with my parents. My husband and I struggle every day with difficult child. We love him so much, but sometimes it's so draining. The finacial burden has been boggling. My husband and I both work full-time, and we seem to be trapped in a vicious cycle of never getting ahead. We can't just get a normal daycare for difficult child, he needs one on one care and supervision, this is VERY expensive. difficult child got kicked out of school and therefore we have him in a private school that costs $650 a month. difficult child is 12 so he is not eligible for any daycare subsidies. We have tried every possible agency and ministry to get a little help with him but he is not eligible for any help or services. His IQ is to high for any community living services. As a couple husband and I are running on fumes most times. We never get a break at all. There is no time for us, we have no one that helps us out. I just think my parents should be helping me out. They have time in their lives, they just don't want to help. They live about a half hour away, but they come up at least twice a week to go to the casino that is 10 minutes away from my house, yet they can't stop in and give their very tired daughter a break. Even if they just came over and watched a movie with difficult child so we could get out of the house for a couple hours. I've suggested this, but they just haven't got around to it. I can't force them to want to help us out, and yes I have made it very clear that we could use a break. My mom calls me about once a week, and I'm seriously considering to just start avoiding her. It feels like our relationship is one sided. She doesn't want to hear about how crappy it's going, if I start to vent she cuts the call short. She's not supportive at all. I know I sound selfish but unless she's willing to help us out (I do not mean financially just a break here and there), why should I always have to put on a "peachy farce" for her.