After reading posts on this forum, for the first time I don't feel alone. My adult daughter has abused me for years. She uses you, then shortly after abuses you. I' m not her only target, even her many therapists have suffered her lies and deception. She uses people (men mainly) for personal gain, including her child who I've mainly raised from brith. Up until recently my husband and I ensured the child had a stable environment. We had to clean her up emotionally, physically and spiritually every week after being neglected by her clueless "parents". They were never there for the child only for themselves. He worked long hours, she spent his money dumping the child anywhere at anytime. The upshot is that my daughter has lost custody of her child who is now living with the father. The father is co-dependent on my daughter. He imposed (he's a lawyer) unrealistic Orders, pretending he was a capable parent Who had plenty support from family, neighbours and friends (of which none actually exist) He has told us he used the court to "teach her a lesson". Even after he won custody he continues to enable my daughter providing the money to support her "lifestyle". He gives into her every whim. He gives into her every demand and puts them before the needs of his child. On the first day my daughter had access rights she slept in. Her little girl was looking forward to seeing her mother. They had their typical argument and my daughter put her fist through a glass panel. He came to her "rescue" and allowed the little one to witness the chaos, the blood, her mother's distress. It's as though they are both addicted to drama, he being the rescuer, her the damsel in distress. She keeps upping the anti! He took the child away from our care believing he could simply put her into a child minding faculty 11 hours a day. After not seeing her for over 2 weeks we were allowed to visit. She was filth from head to toe, she was emotionally depleted. Every time she would "misbehave" he gave her a mobile device or put her in front of TV. Her teeth were yellow, her eyes vacant. I feel so guilty. I have learned to detach from my toxic daughter, she is responsible for her own life. But I am struggling with feeling there is very little I can do to help my granddaughter. Both parents use her as a pawn, and I feel powerless to help her. Can anyone please support me? I am so struggling. I haven't even touched the surface of this ridiculously, crazy, dysfunctional mess.