issues of one thing or another. I read some of your threads & I get very very sad. I'd like to share my take on marriage; the infatuation & romance of early love, the wedding day & honeymoon. Then there comes the early childless years, then the kids. During all those periods you are a different person in your marriage as is your spouse. husband used to call me at work & be amazed at that professional side of me when I was in the middle of something; I'd have the same reaction when I'd touch base with husband at work. Once we got home & had changed into our "real" clothes I saw the man I married. That early love, romance & infatuation was just that - early love, romance, & infatuation. The honeymoon period was still the "discomfort" of not shaving my legs every day or putting on makeup even if I was sicker than a dog. Our years with-o children were at times wild; a time of exploration, fun - goofiness. Also those early DINK years were planning years. There was a bit of the romance & infatuation of our early love left, however, it had grown to a deeper understanding of one another. Our years as parents have been rife with stress, anger - when respite was to be had we took it & did our best to reconnect. For the most part, we tag teamed our way through the early tweedle years. We backed each other no matter what when dealing with the kids. If we disagreed we did it behind closed doors & either saw the other's point or compromised. Never in front of kt or wm. These were the imperfect, loss of romance & the fun DINK years. These were the years full of doubt whether we could survive as a couple. Yet we made it. Over the years the deep love & commitment came to be. The young love matured, became complete. We lived through many many happy times, many indifferent times & some incredibly ugly times. My spouse is gone - has been for over a year. I never again once he was hospitalized heard him say I love you; he was so hooked to machines that I never again got to lay with my husband in the same bed. I never again heard a goofy husband joke nor a good argument out of him. I miss him greatly today. Can't say why. I don't know why I'm posting this other than I've seen so many dissatisfied people posting of late. AND it makes me incredibly sad - so very very sad. It can & does get better my friends.