Yep, I'm the one in m y family that rocks the boat. My parents are in town as are a few of my siblings. They are spending half a month here. They will see their grandkids (my kids) a grand total of 3 times. It is hurting my kids. Yesterday my mom came to my house took her favorite (difficult child 1) and left the others. They were devestated. I was livid and I sent a text msg saying how much she hurt the other kids. Yep. By doing so I rocked the boat. Now they are talking about me when I'm not there, ignoring husband completely, and the last family party (the third and last time for grandkid interaction) was tense/unpleasant. My kids really want her attention but she just doesn't seem to care. Those articles on detachment in the PE forum hit kinda close to home for me. From my mom's perspective I'm the problem for bringing unpleasant emotions front and center. In case you were wondering I was very respectful in that text msg but very to the point. And husband was wonderful trying to distract them. I let difficult child 1 go because if I hadn't (after she showed up without talking to me first) I would've had difficult child 1 melting down on top of the other kids upset. Thanks for letting me vent. I have no one else to talk to about this.