i'm hoping everyone's day went well today. I had beyond a rough one with difficult child. I need to ask you guys for some advice. I've got the medication in place as many of you know, that was a rough one yet with everyone's help I did it. I have the therapist in place as well. I make constant and continuous accommodations here at home due to difficult child. Things such as her leaving with her dad for weekend visitation on saturday afternoons, as opposed to friday night. So, now she's only gone for basically 24 hours or about that. I have also left my job, as many of you have also due to her increasing needs. I now have found a pt job that pays pretty low yet will allow me to still be her main caregiver. I've done little things like for example i do the laundry on friday's now to avoid her being upset and melting down at me doing it on weekend. We have to go to laundromat. I've also have strict routine in place every friday night which is her shows, a snack she picks out, etc. Night is all about her. I do the cleaning during week now that I"m not working to avoid any chores on weekend. Today I made the mistake in thinking i could go food shopping. Well, she was so manicky today it was unreal. I broke down and brought her to movies gave up on buying food with her and spent money i didn't have because she was melting down and it was pouring rain and I was looking for quick fix. We couldn't do outdoor actiivity due to weather. I than came home after fighting with her all morning to get dressed, not argue with her sister, stop making a mess everywhere, etc. i decide ok i'll go out to costco now. I left easy child in charge. I'm literally right down the road. I return to find sand art playdough all smudged into living room carpet. I come back to find birthday, easter cards, you name it all over our place. difficult child went through draws and pulled out holiday cards from years past and put them all over. easy child obviously did nothing, sat on phone and labtop didn't clean fridge out for me like i asked her to. So, I'm sitting here totally spent right now i thought i'd cry yet i'm not at that point. I'm soaken wet from rain outside and carrying bags up in dark, and now it's onto dinner and whatever else difficult child wants to do tongiht. I'm exhausted. What provisions do you guys make at home around difficult child's?? I mean life requires work there are chores, and food shopping, and normal things that have to happen. Once I begin working these things wil have to lap onto the weekends again. difficult child some weekends just can't handle it. I just feel like this job is always so very hard and thought provoking. Our place is a mess now, no point of cleaning during week she's trashed it totally. Carpets ruined. All I want to do is climb into bed at this point. Than the amt of stuff i bought at costco set her off and excited her so much boom the irritability thing again and fighting with easy child over the biscuits that i told them they could do together for me to put in oven to go with cooked chicken i got. Is this how it is i just have to run every single day around her needs, desires, moods, manic behaviors and stay on guard 24/7? Don't get me wrong I know others handle so much more yet I guess this is my limit today. Thanksgiving set her off also. boyfriend and I have noticed a pattern around thanksgiving time she begins to truly fly off the handle. I should be grateful the sleep is still occuring. Also I forgot to add she never wants to leave the house. So, it usually takes hours of prompting and fighting to get her out. ok thanks, i'm open to any ideas at all or maybe even ideas on how everyone else makes it through weekends??