Warning: I am tired just finished 20 hours of a class..will graduate in a month (long/positive story ) Anyway, a difficult child update of sorts. difficult child has moved a zillion times. We have discussed with- her the idea of going to a group home. She refuses and it gets ugly. She is on disability, so by and large, she has money to stay in efficiencies. Not too long ago, since she has moved so much, she ran out of money and for 4-5 weeks, stayed with "friends." This was basically a disaster and she lost everything (TV, etc.) All she has left are her cats and a small amount of clothing. difficult child landed on her feet in a HUGE/MAJOR WAY. It is unreal. This has happened to her a few times. I ALWAYS say the girl has a guardian angel...there is no doubt. Her old boyfriend's parents who live in a HUGE wonderful home (but are currently having their own money problems themselves) asked her to stay with- them. She is in their former maid's quarters. difficult child keeps her cat in their garage. They give her dinner 5 nights a week. difficult child has repeatedly had difficulties with food, etc. They let her use the laundry there. We were going to buy her a refrigerator, cause they were not letting her use theirs. She CAN use their pool. HOWEVER, they have rules and are rather strict. The rules are that she can't have anyone over and the other rule is that she has to be in by 11 p.m. Well, WE have been thrilled for her. Silly us. She is in basically a mansion. This place is relatively near us. It is walled in. She has a/c, is safe, extra food, the people are nice to her, a place for her cats, is near the bus, her doctors, the food store, us, etc. Guess what? difficult child called yesterday hysterical and said she is moving PRONTO. She does not have enough money to move this second, but I suppose will at the beginning of next month is she can convince the next place to let her move with-o a security deposit. She is thinking of moving in with- the son of the people she is living with- now. They want nothing to do with- their son. He has many many problems and has caused difficult child many many problems in the past. He is an abusive alcoholic. Thoughts? We are stepping back. WE told difficult child if she makes this decision, just for the sake of our own sanity, we are pulling back even further, which is pretty far back as it is. Not sure if this was the right move or not, but it is what it is. Retreating into survival mode. Can't be dragged down (energy drain). Her psychiatrist has abandoned her, we got a new one, difficult child missed an apt. and now the woman will NOT call her back! husband even called and she wont call HIM back. All of this is actually illegal....but again, I am drained. THIS,h owever, I might do something about. She has a right to her medication. Thoughts? I'm wondering about a dual diagnosis: Bipolar (already diagnosis'd) and Borderline. Just thinking "out loud." It's very hard to say. Forlorn and hurting this moment...but as per usual...I will regroup shortly. I have so much to do and a great desire to keep moving forward.