I am afraid that my 16-year-old is using again. The lying has increased...the coming home accidentally late..never her fault late...the not feeling well...late getting to school... Yep, the signs are there.
I actually called her probation officer and left a message today. Then, he called back and said a teacher called him as someone overheard her talking about using over the weekend. So, when I pick her up, we are to stop for a UA at his office.
I noticed a pattern of her being sick from school on days we needed to see him and then he would reschedule for later in the week or the following week. All her test have come back negative for drugs but most drugs, except for marijuana, leave your body in three days. And she's smart enough to know this.
I wouldn't be happy. If she smoked weed, but I'm more concerned about meth or opioids.
This weekend I caught her lying about who she was with on Friday and Saturday. On Sunday she was supposed to go to a church youth group activity from 6 to 8. I knew it was risky to let her use the car but I was kind of setting a trap. (She has only used the car 3 times this year, for churc related activities) She has GPS on her phone and promised she would have it on when she went to this activity. Sure enough she called at 6:30 saying she couldn't find the group at the park and she evidently went to the wrong park. Then I told her the correct location and expected her to go there. Then she text that she felt sick and I told her to go straight home.
What she actually did was leave the house and go to a boyfriends house. She never planned to go to the church activity. We were at a friends house having dinner so I was trusting her to go where she had planned to go. But what she didn't know was that our car now his GPS. So I can tell where she went and when.
She was actually smart enough to turn off GPS on her phone, when she went to the boys house. And then later come home, turn on GPS, drive from here to the church to the wrong park then to the right park and then back home. But the car GPS shows the whole story.
I am so done. I don't know for sure she will test positive but I believe so. I don't know if she will go back into juvenile detention or be taken from the home but at this time I am okay with what happens. As long as something happens.
Two weekends ago she was about three hours late getting home and when she came home she had a big sob story of her phone dying, her friend had cut her wrists, she went with the girl and her parents to the emergency room, then back with the parents to get things for an overnight stay, and then the parents dropped her off at our house.
Then she cried and said what a trigger it was to see her friends cut arms because she has been a cutter in the past herself and this triggered a whole bunch of emotions with her. My husband and I sat in her room for hours that night while she cried and hugged us and put on a big show. I spent the night in her bed to make sure she was safe. And I have now figured out that was all a lie.
I can't imagine how someone can be this manipulative at 16 years old. I just don't get it.
Ksm
I actually called her probation officer and left a message today. Then, he called back and said a teacher called him as someone overheard her talking about using over the weekend. So, when I pick her up, we are to stop for a UA at his office.
I noticed a pattern of her being sick from school on days we needed to see him and then he would reschedule for later in the week or the following week. All her test have come back negative for drugs but most drugs, except for marijuana, leave your body in three days. And she's smart enough to know this.
I wouldn't be happy. If she smoked weed, but I'm more concerned about meth or opioids.
This weekend I caught her lying about who she was with on Friday and Saturday. On Sunday she was supposed to go to a church youth group activity from 6 to 8. I knew it was risky to let her use the car but I was kind of setting a trap. (She has only used the car 3 times this year, for churc related activities) She has GPS on her phone and promised she would have it on when she went to this activity. Sure enough she called at 6:30 saying she couldn't find the group at the park and she evidently went to the wrong park. Then I told her the correct location and expected her to go there. Then she text that she felt sick and I told her to go straight home.
What she actually did was leave the house and go to a boyfriends house. She never planned to go to the church activity. We were at a friends house having dinner so I was trusting her to go where she had planned to go. But what she didn't know was that our car now his GPS. So I can tell where she went and when.
She was actually smart enough to turn off GPS on her phone, when she went to the boys house. And then later come home, turn on GPS, drive from here to the church to the wrong park then to the right park and then back home. But the car GPS shows the whole story.
I am so done. I don't know for sure she will test positive but I believe so. I don't know if she will go back into juvenile detention or be taken from the home but at this time I am okay with what happens. As long as something happens.
Two weekends ago she was about three hours late getting home and when she came home she had a big sob story of her phone dying, her friend had cut her wrists, she went with the girl and her parents to the emergency room, then back with the parents to get things for an overnight stay, and then the parents dropped her off at our house.
Then she cried and said what a trigger it was to see her friends cut arms because she has been a cutter in the past herself and this triggered a whole bunch of emotions with her. My husband and I sat in her room for hours that night while she cried and hugged us and put on a big show. I spent the night in her bed to make sure she was safe. And I have now figured out that was all a lie.
I can't imagine how someone can be this manipulative at 16 years old. I just don't get it.
Ksm