OK, I knew this was going too well with the doctors. medication doctor didn't advise either for or against, but made available to us one of two tranquilizers to help with mood and impulsiveness when ADHD (Metadate) is not in effect. I passed since I didn't think the level of ODD warranted it yet - I want to try counseling/therapy. (Yes, I am getting the book - but I don't do well with making sense of the books - I do better with face-to-face) I just found out that a diagnoses of ADHD/ODD does not qualify for therapy benefits from our insurer. My wife fall into that wonderful barren wasteland called "middle income" - we both work, and are barely getting by, but don't qualify for any type of asistance. Any recommendations?