littlereed
New Member
I am new to this forum but feel I can relate to so many of your struggles and stories. I am dealing with an adult son who is an addict. It has been this way for over three years now. He has had his brushes with the law, been in and out of rehab but unfortunately continues down the road of destruction. He has lost everything from a good job, his vehicle and his good credit. I am now just looking for advice or perhaps words of 'wisdom' on how to kick out my son. He only recently moved back home week ago and I had placed some very stringent and strict rules for him. He did great for only four days and then 'disappeared for 3 1/2 days'. I thought the worst...just waiting for law enforcement to call or show up at my door. I know that he needs to go and suffer the consequences of his drug addiction and am just wondering how some of you got to the point of kicking out your adult child (he graduated from high school over three years ago). I know that by allowing him to live here is not helping him, and know that he needs to go. I cannot do it any more and I actually am afraid at times of him and some of the 'friends' who stop by for him. I however will have no problem calling 911 if it comes to that point and I have told him this. I am just wondering how some of you did it. I know I have to do it quickly, get my house key from him, do it when he is not 'high' (only a few brief windows for this). Did you just tell him to pack up a bag, give him a number to call when he is ready for help, and give him the address of the local homeless shelter? Unfortunately I live in a state where the weather is still dipping below freezing for at least another month and this is the only reason I allowed him back this past week but warned him that if he violated the rules he himself agreed to, he would have to go. I know I am rambling on, but hope for some advice and that someone can decipher my rambling post. Thank you for being able to vent and to reach out to others who 'have been there' and continue to be there.