I have a 46 Y/O daughter and a 12 Y/O grandson. She lives in another state/city where prejudice is normal and being conservative is the norm. NOT how I raised her. I am extremely liberal in my beliefs. On several occassions we have disagreed on things, and that is OK. One time a cousin wanted to get a hold of her because they were going to Vegas so I gave them her contact number. Not that I would care, but they asked if she knew anyone they could buy pot from. From that, she got so angry AT ME and said I was jeapordizing her job, her custody of her son, blah blah blah. And she said she would not stay with us for an up coming visit. So recently, I posted on a political FB page just my opinion. Somehow, out of 1.3 million people she saw MY comment and copied and pasted it to her FB page. All her friends, of course, support her and have her political beliefs. I NEVER post on her FB page ANYTHING political. EVER. I said nothing about this post, either, though I do not understand 1) how she saw it & 2) why would she post this to her page unless she wanted her friends to hate me? So now, again, she is cancelling her up coming visit but will visit her father a few miles away. She went onto say we do not get along and I do not call her for months at a time. I told her (as I have before) that I have to walk on egg shells around her. She disapproves of almost everything I do so I don't really share my life with her. Makes conversations short and rather boring. She is angry I don't call, and maybe I should more...but I have no idea what will set her off. I just feel like maybe she is bullying me and holding our grandson hostage.....and her of course. Do I define this as bullying? How do I work with this without caving into her? I feel like I should say, "This type of threat needs to be pulled off the table. Be mad at me, disagree with me, but quit threatening me." Which of course is an "or else" scenario....which of course I do not want.