Just a thought; Obviously Stands is not ready or willing to act on suggestions or advice that any of us have to give, even thought she continues to come here asking us for help. Why do we continue to respond? Aren't we, in some sense, enabling the behavior? I don't mean this facetiously, but there's a pattern here and we keep repeating it right along with her. I'm not suggesting we turn our backs on anyone, but maybe we need to detach from HER. Again, I'm not trying to be a b**** here, but this is really disruptive to everyone.