lillykissa
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I am very concerned with a conversation I had with my daughters school counselor.
My daughter suffers from PTSD, anxiety and has static encephalopathy. She is in 7th grade(main streamed class for all but English and gets moderated Math and Science work)
We started at a new school last fall and my daughter has never had an easy time making friends. She never gives up and goes to school every day with her head held high. However, a few times this year, I have witnessed other children treat her down right cruel. I have actually had to address a few of these children myself.
Last week, I went to the counselor just to chat and brought up an incident from early in the week. I had just picked my daughter up at the end of the day and the band and choir were loading up on busses to go to a neighboring town for competition. My daughter said "Good Luck" to all these kids. The kids were looking at her like she was weird and some laughed at her.
At one point when NO ONE said thanks or even responded to her positively...I said "THANK YOU, (daughters name here)" and looked at all these kids.
The counselor then related a similar incident from THAT DAY.
Then she looked at me and said: "You just need to turn a blind eye at these other childrens behavior. This age is tough and kids are mean."
No punishment is doled out for children being cruel and picking on my daughter, but if my daughter so much as puts a hand on another child(ie taps a child on the arm to get their attention) SHE gets reprimanded for physical contact.
I think it is sending out different signals to these children.
And what ever happend to compassion and kindness? I have taught my children that you treat everyone with kindness and not to pick on anyone for their differences.
Anyway, what do think of this "turning a blind eye..." statement?
Should I let it go?
Just so very frustrated at the entire school system at this point.
My daughter suffers from PTSD, anxiety and has static encephalopathy. She is in 7th grade(main streamed class for all but English and gets moderated Math and Science work)
We started at a new school last fall and my daughter has never had an easy time making friends. She never gives up and goes to school every day with her head held high. However, a few times this year, I have witnessed other children treat her down right cruel. I have actually had to address a few of these children myself.
Last week, I went to the counselor just to chat and brought up an incident from early in the week. I had just picked my daughter up at the end of the day and the band and choir were loading up on busses to go to a neighboring town for competition. My daughter said "Good Luck" to all these kids. The kids were looking at her like she was weird and some laughed at her.
At one point when NO ONE said thanks or even responded to her positively...I said "THANK YOU, (daughters name here)" and looked at all these kids.
The counselor then related a similar incident from THAT DAY.
Then she looked at me and said: "You just need to turn a blind eye at these other childrens behavior. This age is tough and kids are mean."
No punishment is doled out for children being cruel and picking on my daughter, but if my daughter so much as puts a hand on another child(ie taps a child on the arm to get their attention) SHE gets reprimanded for physical contact.
I think it is sending out different signals to these children.
And what ever happend to compassion and kindness? I have taught my children that you treat everyone with kindness and not to pick on anyone for their differences.
Anyway, what do think of this "turning a blind eye..." statement?
Should I let it go?
Just so very frustrated at the entire school system at this point.