I really need some support so any advice is great appreciated. My only son just turned 23. His father died when he was 2 months old, I have raised him alone (without any help or support). My parents and two older brothers have passed, I am completely alone with no surviving immediate family. I'm a survivor, have always worked full-time and gave my son everything. We had a great life together until after he graduated high school. It all went downhill it seems from 2011 forward. My son always struggled in school, was diagnosed ADD, dyslexic, etc. He was a super happy and outgoing little boy, always funny and friendly. Teachers always said his attention span was zero but he was a good kid. Once he graduated high school he floundered around and since then has ended up being arrested 3 times for pot (misdemeanor charges). I bailed him out each time. He did probation, county service, went to drug classes, etc. I gave him my used Honda civic, he wrecked it last year and has not had a car since, worked for two months and got fired, stays out until 3-4am with friends, sleeps until noon, leaves again right after I get home from work, etc. His attitude has become horrible towards me. He had a girlfriend but she broke up with him after a year because he was verbally abusive towards her. I got into a big argument with him about how he treated her and how disrespectful he has become towards me. Told him all he does is get high, stay out all night, refuses to help me with chores, I can't take him coming home at 3-4am on weeknights waking me up when I have to work. We got into a shouting match and I basically told him to pack a suitcase and leave. He has met this girl who is 25 who has an apt. and car and she is taking care of him (enabling him). She worked with him at his last job and she got fired along with him. He has mentioned she does hard drugs (pills). Since he left several days ago I have not heard from him. When he left he said "Thanks for giving up on me". I told him "Nice try - guilt trip won't work with me, you've made your choices and have no motivation to get on with your life, I can't live this way". I just need support - he has become a totally different person and is addicted to smoking pot. He thinks I should be glad that's all he does but I know he drinks and has done Molly and who knows what else. I need to add that he was also in a serious car accident with his friend who was driving. They were at a red light and someone smashed into the back of them. This was 2 months ago. He called me and I came to the rescue, drove him to the emergency room with his head gushing blood. Ended up just being a gash that was stitched up but my nerves are fried from getting these repeat 2 am calls from him that he is going to jail or has been in an accident. My car died on the freeway a week ago and I called him to see if he and his friend could come help. He was too busy. So on a Saturday night stranded on the side of the freeway I had to call a tow truck and deal with it alone. I'm so disappointed in my son and feel horrible kicking him out but Ive gotten to the point I cant deal with his disrespect and attitude anymore. His room is a pig stye, he refuses to learn how to do his own laundry, never offers to help and treats me like I'm stupid and don't know anything. I gave my life for him for the last 23 years and this is what I get in return. I hope I'm doing the tough love thing correctly. It hurts me while Im sure he is out partying nonstop and could care less. Should I change the locks? I think he might sneak back in during the day while I am at work. I have to stick to my guns and let him know I'm serious. My problem is - I'm worried this is doing more harm than good. Help!