I've lurked on this forum on and off for years and found it really helpful - thank you everyone! Now I'm finally starting to post. My difficult child 1 had aggressive meltdowns for many years, but after a couple of hospitalizations, one arrest for battery against me, and lots of good therapy, he's been violence-free for two years. He's still an aspie, and still has difficulties, but they are so much easier to deal with when the violence is gone. My difficult child 2 is in the psychiatric hospital right now - his sixth hospitalization in the last nine months. He has had big difficulties coming to terms with his GID - his first hospitalization he told me he wanted to wear girl's clothes, his third was to get him through going back to school wearing girl's clothes (couldn't stand wearing boy's clothes, couldn't stand the thought of people looking at him like he was weird). His fifth hospitalization was after he got the letter from school that they are going to have the Human Growth and Development unit, because he hates his body. But the GID is not his only problem - he has had school refusal and separation anxiety issues since he started preschool, and he gets upset and has meltdowns about lots of other things than the GID. He was out of the psychiatric hospital only 24 hours before he was put back in by the police yesterday. I'd brought him to art therapy (he loves art), but he said he didn't want to do it, instead he wanted to go home and break his door and walls some more. When we got to the art therapy place (same building as his case manager), he started attacking me. It took a whole group of case managers to get him off of me, and they had to lock me in an office to keep him away from me. He hurt them too. He then went outside, attacked our car with a rock and his hands, and then started throwing rocks at people and property, before the police came. He's a sweet, kind, smart boy who loves his mom, except he keeps attacking me.