My 23 year old started with marijuana and alcohol. He experimented with Molly, WhipIts, uppers, downers - you name it. All the time he was telling me "Mom, all I do is smoke pot, you don't have to worry". Lies. One thing an addict becomes is a master liar and manipulator. My only son, my only family I have left, has been a pot addict for the past two-three years. He has been arrested 3 times (twice for marijuana under 2 ounces, once for driving with suspended license and drug paraphernalia). In checking his bank records I saw a recent charge for almost $600 to a small town county courthouse. When I Googled that particular courthouse and entered my son's name in the criminal records search, I discovered on August 8 of this year he had a run in with the law and was ticketed for driving with a suspended license (his stupid girlfriend's mother loaned him her car), drug paraphernalia and no proof of insurance. He paid the fines and now that is added to his criminal record. I lost my mind when I found out and he blamed ME by saying "That was the day you kicked me out of the house". So it's MY fault I kicked him out and he goes to his girlfriend's house and her clueless mother gives him the keys to her Lexus. First of all he knew good and well he can't drive while his license is suspended and after three prior arrests, why on earth with he be so friggin stupid to have drug paraphernalia in the car with them? His girlfriend was with him the 2nd time he got arrested (cops let her go). She is as stupid as he is. I'm afraid my son is going to end up in prison. At age 23 he is obsessed with drugs and partying. He spends hundreds at smoke shops buying who knows what. He and his girlfriend are now into "dabbing" (smoking concentrated butane hash oil (BHO). If you guys haven't heard of this - investigate! It's a more potent way to get high than the conventional form. It's basically a stronger, faster, high. Yep, my son has been doing it. He, his girlfriend and his buddies are dumb enough to post pics of them "dabbing" on their Instagram accounts. My son has yet to hold down a job, make any attempt to go to school or do anything productive with his life. He received an inheritance which he is blowing on food, partying, concerts, crap at smoke shops, cell phone bill, court fees. He has wasted almost $10K in court/attorneys/fines. He's paid for it from his inheritance/savings and it makes me sick that money is just being wasted. But nothing I can do. I've been thru the anger, hurt, devastation. He's not the son I raised and I can do nothing to change his ways. He is out of my house and staying with his girlfriend at her moms. He has zero respect for me nor does he care about me so I've cut him off. I'm truly afraid he is in deep and becoming a true addict. I feel helpless but I have had to completely detach. I can't help him, he thinks I know nothing. I'm just so afraid to get that phone call or knock on my door that he's dead. Jail - I can handle, dead from an overdose, I can not. I raised my son alone as a single mom. I was an excellent mom, always there for school functions, made sure birthdays and holidays were amazing, spent time taking him on cool trips, took him fishing, always set a good example and told him independence was extremely important. In return I got a selfish, ungrateful, drug addicted worthless son with zero motivation to be anything in life other than a "partier". I just can not figure out what went wrong with this kid. I did everything to teach him right from wrong and give him a solid foundation, never spoiling him but making him see the value of money and hard work. So much for that - I feel like the last 23 years was a lie and this demon was just waiting to come out of my son and cause all this misery. It all started with pot smoking and now he is doing it all. He has already seen two of his female friends die from heroin overdoses. Do these kids have sh!t for brains and never learn?