Nancy, How's It Going?

Discussion in 'The Watercooler' started by DDD, Jun 7, 2009.

  1. DDD

    DDD Well-Known Member

    You've come to mind twice this weekend so I'm reaching out. Just want you to know that I'm thinking about you and yours. DDD
  2. everywoman

    everywoman Active Member

    Nancy, hope you're okay. I know this week has been tough. Hope you are okay and that difficult child at least let you enjoy some of graduation.
  3. Nancy

    Nancy Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Thanks for thinking of me DDD.

    difficult child turned 18 yesterday. It was quiet and subdued. I bought her a necklace of a heart within a heart and wrote a note that said, 'wherever you go you will always know you are in our hearts." She seemed to genuinely appreciate it. We went to dinner at a restaurant and she invited her boyfriend, but not until the boyfriend's mom called and said it was ok that he go. She didn't get any birthday cards from husband's side of the family. They have all withdrawn their support. I understand but it still hurts.

    Graduation was today. Again it was a subdued affair without much fanfare on our part. The ceremony was in one of our downtown theaters so afterwards we went to lunch on the river. We got some nice pictures of her and her girlfriend's bedfore we left the theater.

    In some ways I feel bad that she is not having a grad party. I'm sad for all the things she has missed or given up. But we are happy and relieved that this weekend has been quiet. The rest of her life is up to her now.

  4. DDD

    DDD Well-Known Member

    Phew/Whew! I understand that it was not what you had hoped and prayed for but she has a diploma, you all were there, there are photos of the event and you can treasure the memories.

    No wonder I was thinking of you........the vibes traveled to Florida! ;)
  5. DammitJanet

    DammitJanet Well-Known Member Staff Member

    I have been thinking of you too.

    I am glad the ceremony went okay and the birthday went well. The necklace sounds so lovely. I wish my mom had ever given me something that sentimental. I would have treasured it.
  6. Fran

    Fran Former desparate mom

    Glad the weekend was relatively uneventful.
  7. pepperidge

    pepperidge New Member


    have been following your saga for awhile now, and feel for you. How much it hurts, how hard you have tried. It is up to her, but its hard to see your investment and love spurned. I hope you get some peace from the on going drama.

    At least you got to graduation. Sometimes I wonder if we will even make it that far.

    Feel good about how hard you worked to get that far.

  8. Suz

    Suz (the future) MRS. GERE

    Nancy, considering how terrible it could have been had she followed through on her hateful attitude from a couple of weeks ago, this is a huge success.

    I hope you and husband take a private moment tonight to share a deep sigh of relief. A shot of brandy probably couldn't hurt either. ;)

    You survived! :wine:


  9. Star*

    Star* call 911


    I never knew the high schools there used the theaters for grad ceremonies. WHAT a phenominal setting for memories.

    I'm glad it was uneventful. I'm more happy that she has her diploma. There are so many here who were supposed to get one this year (class of 09) and did not. I think this is a major jewel in your Mom crown and the princess' as well.

    The birthday gift sounded absolutely perfect. I'm glad she appreciated it. I'm very sorry that husband's side chooses to be withdrawn - but I understand too.

    Hugs for a milestone! WAY TO GO MOM!!!! Way to go GRAD!
  10. totoro

    totoro Mom? What's a GFG?

    You did it. Peaceful is great for you and her!
    Hold onto the good of the day... do not let the sadness of the day or what you feel should have been or how other families celebrate creep in!
    None of us can live up to some of those celebrations, nor would we really want to. ;)
  11. lovemysons

    lovemysons Well-Known Member

    I love the heart necklace and are such a thoughtful mom.

    Congrats on difficult child's graduation.