Well, somehow we are back to square one. We worked out the way to get my son into the 24/7 program at a wonderful (really) boarding school in the mid-west (we are in CA) and are barely getting by paying for it... Now, we have gotten the heart-breaking news than Nathan is now exhibiting Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) behavior... seems he is way over his head obsessing about the distance...that I'm going to DIE while he is gone...and after talking with him over the phone, he is extremely depressed to the point of suicidal again. (No joke, he doesn't talk about it - he just acts. Like trying to jump out of our car on they freeway going 55 mph. - this was the first time at six yrs. old.) The counselor there thinks that she can get him through the end of this school year if he has something to work toward, like coming back to CA to a Residential Treatment Center (RTC) as a "working step" toward coming home. I am all for it but I am OVERWHELMED at the costs and lack of facilities here in my area. (We are in a small town of 25,000.) I have talked to an atty. about helping us get the school to pay a portion of educational expenses, but he says that they (the local district) has been very effective at dodging their responsibilities, even though it is VERY obvious they don't have the resources to help my son. My insurance doesn't seem to offer this type of coverage and we are already at our wit's end trying to cover the current $1,100/mo. tutition PLUS additional mo. expenses of $300. I have talked to county mental health here and they only offer counseling after we hand over half of our rights to CPS. Our psychiatrist says this should be a LAST RESORT because once CPS gets their hands in the pie - you can't get them out. He is not ready to come home as his has twice physically assaulted me, and due to my illness, I am not able to watch out for him and watch over him in the way he needs. PLEASE respond if you have experience getting school, insurance, social services or ??? to cooperate. I JUST :-( want to make sure he is safe, getting the therapy he needs and the structured environment he requires. CA is such a big state with- so much $$$$, how can it look so bleak? Do I have to live in the same county where he receives treatment? There seems to be some question as to whether a larger county might provide better services, but we are really tied to living where we are. I have so many more questions, especially quality of care, but right now the most pressing issue is how to begin? I appreciate your assistance in advance. Thanks for all your continuing support. dawn ------------------ 12yr old ADHD, ODD, new diag Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) wonderful husband of 4 yrs/ how does he do it? i'm just hanging on and i birthed my little darling! sent to military school last Sept. before he got into real trouble. now with anxieties due to distance, my illness (lupus & possible MS) he is not coping well. Advised now to get him OUT of military school and INTO RDC. Favorite quote: (attributed to Dorothy Parker) "What new fresh hell is this?"