I've done everything I possibly could do to raise my only son to be a good person. Since he graduated high school he has not accomplished anything, made no effort to become independent, went to jail for pot 3 times and had done nothing but party. His drivers license has been suspended until Jan 2015 so that's his excuse to do nothing and wait until he can drive again - then he'll find a job, etc. In the meantime this 23 year old adult has been lying to me, drinking & drugging with a large group of friends, broken up with his trashy girlfriend a million times (she is 19 and about as intelligent as a box of rocks - she thinks she is a witch and wears all the witchcraft symbols, etc.). It's a joke. She and her mom finally moved away to another city but she comes back and visits my son constantly. They take Greyhound buses back & forth. Today I've finally come to the end. My son was recently given $26K as part of an inheritance from his late father's family. Bad move. Part of this money was to buy a new car, pay off his attorneys fees, credit card debt and cell phone bill. My son has been blowing this money as fast as he can. This was deposited in a joint savings account that has my name on it - account was opened just for him to deposit the $26K in. His other accounts were closed due to being overdrawn. So I can see how fast he is draining this money out - he is taking out $200 at a time, he's been ordering t-shirts and crap on the internet, black lights and black light posters, went and bought a new $700 iPhone, spending it on food with friends, alcohol, clubs, etc. Last night he and his trashy girlfriend left to go to a party. Hidden in one of his drawers I found a empty box for a whip it's container. Luckily I know what that is for due to the news recently having a segment on inhalants. I called my son and told him to come home asap and pack his **** and move out. He and his girlfriend arrived pretty quickly and she took the blame saying it was hers and my son didn't do that. My son was high, drunk, on something when he came home. His eyes were droopy, he was slurring his words but he was very calm and he let me yell at him and lecture him (which if he was sober he'd be screaming back at me and being a smart ***. His stupid girlfriend sat there taking the blame and I said to her "Are you that stupid to inhale that s**t knowing you are blowing your brains out?" Stupid girl went on to say it was all her fault, she didn't know what she was thinking...". My son then says "mom its not that bad to do whip its". I yelled at him '"Are you friggin kidding me?!!! My God you are as stupid as they come!... all your pot smoking & whip-its inhaling has totally fried the intelligence section of your brain!". I made my son pack his suitcase and leave. Being wasted at the time he packed he had no clue what he was packing - he was weaving back and forth grabbing whatever he could grab, I asked for his house key back but he couldn't find it. His girlfriend got scared and left. I told him to go so he left. Later last night I looked at his girlfriends Instagram account (my son has me blocked but I made a fake account and have access to hers) and she posted a picture about 2 hours later last night of someone's kitchen table. On this table is a big inhalant canister, a box that says "50 whip it cartridges", a pot pipe, beer, vodka and my son's arm pouring a mixed drink. So after all the lying to my face... what did those two idiots do? Go to someone's house and party with inhalents, pot and booze. My son will be 24 next year. He has accomplished nothing. He has worked retail jobs here and there but either quit or got fired. He was in Special Education classe in high school for attention disorders. There was always something off about him that teachers noticed but he graduated high school. Ive raised him alone with no support. I taught him morals and manners, how to budget money, do laundry, cook, clean, pay bills...everything needed for independence. To no avail. He is clueless about life. Its just a matter of time before he lands back in jail. I'm done. I withdrew $7500 from his chunck of money in our joint account and put it in my savings. This is for the last year he has lived me. This is what he owes me for his half of rent, electric, internet, maid service (me) and food. The locksmith is coming at 3p today to rekey my locks. I have cancelled my life insurance policy worth $500K with him as sole beneficiary. If I die he can cremate me for cheap with the money he will get from my work life ins. policy. I'm so mad totally betrayed by the constant lies... Ive had enough. He will not have access to my house again. So I need advice. Is there anything else I need to do to protect myself? He will wait until Monday when he thinks I am at work and try to come home. He will discover I have changed the locks then eventually see I have moved $7500 out of our account (in which I will send him a detailed invoice for his expenses for the past 12 months).