My oldest son is 26 and lives in a mobile home my husband and I bought for him. We also have a business that my son has worked off and on at since he was 16. He has never been reliable and would have blow ups with his dad, and would be fired. He refuses to work anywhere else and relies on us for everything. My husband or I bring lunch and his dinner to him every day of the week. I pay his utilities (power and water) and tv. We do take this amount out of his check, if he has enough. He has been on drugs since around 16 and is prescribed xanxax by his dr., who he is not truthful with. He has been out of control many times and he is right now. He has terrible anger and rage and has said for years that he doesn't want to live. My husband and I are seeing a therapist today in the same office as he uses and so his dr knows things now and my son is going to be furious with me. I'm trying to get him help and I know I have to stop enabling him BUT your child's pain is your pain. He's taken some steroids that he has been on and got confused and took them all and his forehead is swollen. Said he did it when he overtook the xanxax. I only know this because of his little brother who is 21. My son says he doesn't have a drug problem and doesn't want to hear anymore about it. But he is relying on us for ever single thing and demands his job back or says he will get worse and kill himself. I don't know how I can endure anymore of this.