First off, just want to say how pleased I was to find this support group. I have already read some similar postings and read the detachment posting. This I have found very helpful. My son is 24. Up until around December had a very good job coaching, made good money, he and his girlfriend lived here and paid rent. He was under an awful lot of stress at work, working 70 hour weeks, some time, generally about 50. Just after Christmas, we had a falling out. He moved into his girlfriend's parent's house, they are fine with this and now never leaves their basement. He stopped going to work, plays, playstation and basically has cut off contact with his friends and family and does not answer his phone, it is turned off. In the past he has suffered from anxiety and self medicates with pot. I am at my wit's end. Up until today, I was trying to keep contact, going up there is see him, but yesterday, he only popped up from the basement to say what are you doing here, I am sleeping and then went back down, did say hello but wanted nothing to do with us really. His girlfriend's mom said he is getting worse. I asked my older son who is 42 to go and speak to him, my younger son refused to see him. I did give him a letter yesterday, telling him I love him, we are here for him if he wants to get help. I now realize I have to detach. As I said I read postings here and to be honest have had dealings with my brother's drug addiction in the past so am aware of enabling. Just didn't know this also pertained to depression as well. It is the hardest thing. Added to this is my husband has early onset Alzheimer's so basically I have no support. I am 60, he is 65 diagnosed 5 years ago. My son told my husband yesterday, he didn't want to see me, and appears to be angry at me, for what I don't know. We were extremely close in the past. Anyway, there it is in a nutshell. I am so thankful I have found this site. As I said will continue to read but would love to hear from people with similar experiences. Thank you.