Hi I am new here. My DS is 12. And I feel like the last few months have been a roller coaster ride with him. I must start off by saying ds is fine at school and does well at his father's house(not much expected of him there) but at home I feel like it never stops. Today when he called me to tell me he was home from school I didnt want to answer the phone. DS was diagnosed with ADHD at 5. As a child was kicked out of several daycares for biting and behavior inability to communicate. Got an IEP in kindergarten and has done well in school ever since. But since the birth of his baby sister 17 months ago he has become another child at home. He argues about everything I tell him. He has to be right about things no one else ever can be right. If I ask him to do a chore he whines and complains which ends up in a battle because I yell at him to quite arguing which gets worse and lately has escalated into me telling him he will be punished and him asking me " You and what army." and things of the like. I can honestly say every time I ask him to do something he complains and comes up with excuses not to do it. A battle ensues and it ends up with him in his room saying he doesnt care that he lost privledges and that I better watch it cause his anger is coming out. He will be playing with a ball in the house. I ask him to quit. he doesnt. I ask him again. He ignores me and finally by the 8th or so time I have lost patience and yell at him to quit. Again he gets upset and stomps off. He has no inside voice. He laughs loudly and just generally has no regard for what I tell him. He knows it all. Recently at a pumpkin patch we were there with his sister he ran away from me I told him to come down he said no. mumbled under is breath and ran away again climbed a dirt hill which he knew I couldnt climb and sat at the top laughing saying he didnt care if he lost privledges cause now he had no reason to come down. He got irritated with his baby sister one day and pushed her face into the carpet so she wouldnt irriate him and cause him to miss his show by crying. He lies. 2 weeks ago he got locked out of the house and now 2 screens are ripped on the house and "He didnt do it." He wasnt supposed to be on the easy child last week when husband logged into it and saw his fantasy football team up and he came up with a story of how his smart friend cloned him and it was his clone. So how do you draw the line between normal preteen bs and ODD? What are the defining factors? I am at the end of my rope with him. I am at a loss. DOnt know what to do. I have called and left several messages for a conselor and am just waiting on one to call back!!! Is any of this familiar???????