Hello, I am new here and looking for support. Our 16-year-old was just diagnosed with depression and oppositional-defiant disorder. I am struggling to know how far to push adherence to rules during this time since we are just beginning medication and therapy. Does anyone have anything to share? For instance, he refused to attend the depression group the doctor suggested we start, and probably will refuse again. He refused to attend school this afternoon after his appointment. I realize it may be a lot to handle, but I am afraid he will use this as an excuse to further control us and hurt himself in the process.