Ok, here is my story. I am unable to conceive. After 4 years of medications and infertility treatments, shots, hospital stays etc. We decided to adopt. We got registered and matched and everything was great. We got custody of the two children we want to adopt on June 5th. They are still in the Foster Care System, until the courts finalize everything. We were told about some behavior issues with our son. They told us the behaviors were ADHD related and controlled by medications. Long story short after an evaluation by psychologists and psychiatrists they are telling us he has ODD, AHDH, PTSD, and that they are still completing the diagnosis of the rest of the acronyms that end in D. He has been evaluated before, and they didn't find this, and his behavior was worse in his foster home than here. So...we now have 2 kids, a 10yr old daughter that probably doesn't get the attention she should due to our 9yr old sons behavioral problems. Neither of us have ever been parents before, and we need some new ideas to help us contain the damage before it is too late and the state decides to seperate the kids. We have tried all the standard parenting things, which of course don't work. Any ideas would be greatly appreciated!~~Thanks!