Thank you very much for looking at this posting. My step daughter (15 yr. old) has severe executive function problems as well as other learning disabilities. In addition, she has defiance/compliance issues, rage and basic refusal to do anything to better her situation. She has a very high IQ and her reading and writing skills are fantastic. She has been on numerous medications the only one having any positive effect being Ritalin, which she refuses to take. She will be a sophomore in high school this year. Last year, she received D and Cs in the public school, but the problems are bigger than just the grades. She is hanging out with kids who are going no where, have no interest and are simply mad at the world. This summer we tried to explore private schools, but she refuses to cooperate in any part of the process and walked out on the interviews. The schools that we looked at that have programs for ADHD etc. refuse to take her because of the defiance and rage. We are going to try and get her to take Strattera in the hopes that if it isn't called Ritalin she'll take it (she put the Ritalin under her tongue and later spit it out). We are extremely loving parents who are up all night worrying about this and crying during the day about it. We feel like we've tried everything - coach, therapy, medication, contracts (which she never lives up to), being involved with school, not being involved with school, educational consultant etc. She has an IEP at school which has been basically useless. They have given up on her. We are worn out and at our wits end. We're afraid to send her to a school that will take kids that don't want to be there because underneath it all she is very scard and vulerable. We're afraid that if we put her with "tough" kids things will get even worse. We don't think she is involved with drugs or sex yet. What we want is a school that would be willing to wait out the defiance and rage and understand what is really driving it (lack of self esteem etc.) beause we think in the right place and the right medication she could blossom. It just seems like there is nothing in between the "boot camp-like" schools and regular boarding or private schools. We tried talking to a regular private school that had a special program for ADHD but they wouldn't deal with her. Is there some place that would deal with her learning problems and her emotional problems that is nurturing? If there isn't such a school what do we do? Should be try and extensive tutor thing again? We live in the Boston area. Thank you very much for reading this LONG e-mail. Any help you can provide would be greatly appreciated.