Good Afternoon Everyone! I was wondering if anyone has had the experience of getting conservatorship or guardianship over an 18yr old to be able to have a say in their mental health. I currently have joint custody with his dad, and my son is NOT emancipated (we live in NJ). His dad is out of the picture and I am the custodial parent. I also still recieve child support. by the way, I married about 41/2 yrs ago and my husband and son do not get along. Short story: My 18yr old son has ADD. Had troubles in H/S, (cutting classes, acting out and angry at home) but managed to graduate by the skin of his teeth. Was accepted to college and left in August. Picked up for underage drinking at one frat party in September -- no charges filed. I re'cvd a call from him at midnight in late October; he confessed to smoking pot for the past year daily and very heavily. Stated that he wanted to come home and get some help and that he was not going to classes in college. It was the first time in 17yrs that he ever opened up and just talked honestly about his life and his situation. I just listened. I told him that he could come home with the stipulation that he work and go to counseling. Fast forward 4 months later and he is getting worse. Sleeps all day, up at night -- angry, withdrawn and has outbursts. He did get a job at Macy's but got let go because he sleeps so heavily that he cannot get up for work. Just was offered a job at Target, but failed the drug test. In any case, I am looking to see if I can get some type of conservatorship over him so that I have a say in his mental health, in the event we call the crisis center (if he has an outburst). As of now, we are trying to get him to call for treatment -- or he's gotta leave. I don't know where he would go and I'm scared he will kill himself. I don't know if I'm even at that point yet of doing that, I'm not ready -- but I have a feeling it will happen at some point. This just isn't an easy road, is it? I'm numb and really don't know what else to do. My husband and I are going to NAMI (National Association for Mental Illness) for counseling to get a grip on this situation at home. He hasn't been diagnosed with a mental illness, but I do think that is involved; he's almost bipolar at times. Thank you for listening. ~C.