Dear all, this may be only tangientially related to the defiance, but I just need some support and ideas. N has been into the color pink for a few months now. This is his code for being into things that girls like. He has gotten the message from the girls in his class that pink is a girl's color, but he chooses pink crafts nonetheless, and is very interested in taking ballet. Although I've told him the boy dancers wear black and white, not pink, he is undeterred.
It is not an obsession, he still plays transformers and power rangers all day, and he has good male friends. Today, though, he and his little sister swapped clothes. I totally understand it's all about learning and role-playing, and hey--if a girl can dress up like a cowboy, then why can't a boy dress up like a princess? However, my husband is beside himself. First he was worried when the ballet interest appeared. Then when N said he wanted to wear pink, hubby's concern grew. And when he saw N in A's clothes today, he stiffened, but appropriately held his tongue. I know he is cringing inside, though.
Any thoughts? Anyone else's boys go through a pink phase?
I don't want to make N feel like he's doing something wrong, and I don't want him to think Daddy doesn't accept his interests. How do I talk with-my husband? How do I talk to N? I almost think that because he is a knee-jerk defiant kid, when he learned that boys don't choose pink, he decided he should choose it, IYKWIM. Does that make sense?
TIA,
Lulu
It is not an obsession, he still plays transformers and power rangers all day, and he has good male friends. Today, though, he and his little sister swapped clothes. I totally understand it's all about learning and role-playing, and hey--if a girl can dress up like a cowboy, then why can't a boy dress up like a princess? However, my husband is beside himself. First he was worried when the ballet interest appeared. Then when N said he wanted to wear pink, hubby's concern grew. And when he saw N in A's clothes today, he stiffened, but appropriately held his tongue. I know he is cringing inside, though.
Any thoughts? Anyone else's boys go through a pink phase?
I don't want to make N feel like he's doing something wrong, and I don't want him to think Daddy doesn't accept his interests. How do I talk with-my husband? How do I talk to N? I almost think that because he is a knee-jerk defiant kid, when he learned that boys don't choose pink, he decided he should choose it, IYKWIM. Does that make sense?
TIA,
Lulu