STRESSEDTOMAX
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Hi Everybody -
Lately, I have had the feeling that I am raising what a lot of people would refer to as a "brat" and I'm angry at husband and I for giving this kid whatever he wants and not seeing consequences through. I can't tell you how many of his sentences start with "I want" or "I don't want". It's making me ill. Recently, we bought him an $800 Ipad and even then - in the store - he's ready to throw a fit because he thought we might have to wait a half hour for husband to meet us at the store.
Today, we had an appointment with a new p-doctor. difficult child started in last night on not wanting to go because his boyfriend (best friend) has a half day this week and he wanted to play with him. He also complained about the length of the ride (40 min) and going to a new place. I explained why we needed to go there and that we would be back very soon after his boyfriend got home from school. Keep in mind, difficult child has been out of school since February. He did go yesterday for some odd reason, though. Anyway, I kept telling him that if he caused us to miss this appointment that he would lose his electronics and playing with boyfriend today. easy child and I tried to calmly explain to him that what he was doing would not be worth the consequences. But he still refused and we didn't go. Then his aggression started - slamming doors - trying to destroy my stuff - telling me to "Shut the F UP". I tol
husband to come home and I would take over at our store because he does not pull this stuff with husband...never has.
So...now I'm at the store and husband calls and wants me to make a "deal" with difficult child. He wants me to agree to give him his stuff back if difficult child will go to bed without me in his room tonight (a whole other problem). I said absolutely NOT...he has got to learn that I am no longer putting up with this nonsense. So I guess I'm looking for opinions. It seems husband and I are never on the same page with this. He wants "peace at any cost" but I'm always paying for it.
Lately, I have had the feeling that I am raising what a lot of people would refer to as a "brat" and I'm angry at husband and I for giving this kid whatever he wants and not seeing consequences through. I can't tell you how many of his sentences start with "I want" or "I don't want". It's making me ill. Recently, we bought him an $800 Ipad and even then - in the store - he's ready to throw a fit because he thought we might have to wait a half hour for husband to meet us at the store.
Today, we had an appointment with a new p-doctor. difficult child started in last night on not wanting to go because his boyfriend (best friend) has a half day this week and he wanted to play with him. He also complained about the length of the ride (40 min) and going to a new place. I explained why we needed to go there and that we would be back very soon after his boyfriend got home from school. Keep in mind, difficult child has been out of school since February. He did go yesterday for some odd reason, though. Anyway, I kept telling him that if he caused us to miss this appointment that he would lose his electronics and playing with boyfriend today. easy child and I tried to calmly explain to him that what he was doing would not be worth the consequences. But he still refused and we didn't go. Then his aggression started - slamming doors - trying to destroy my stuff - telling me to "Shut the F UP". I tol
husband to come home and I would take over at our store because he does not pull this stuff with husband...never has.
So...now I'm at the store and husband calls and wants me to make a "deal" with difficult child. He wants me to agree to give him his stuff back if difficult child will go to bed without me in his room tonight (a whole other problem). I said absolutely NOT...he has got to learn that I am no longer putting up with this nonsense. So I guess I'm looking for opinions. It seems husband and I are never on the same page with this. He wants "peace at any cost" but I'm always paying for it.