When I arrived home from work yesterday, easy child was busy in the kitchen making a quiche. The house smelled delightful! I asked if that was for us. She said she's making one for her friend's birthday and a larger one for us. I was happy - I didn't have to make dinner, even though all I had planned was burgers. In the meantime, easy child heated up some of her organic chicken nuggets and tater tots for her dinner, which we do not eat, EVER. So, easy child and I are chatting it up as she was cooking and in walks H. By this time, easy child's plate of chicken nuggets and tater tots are on the counter and in between making the quiches she's snagging a bite here and there - it is her dinner. H walks over and takes a chicken nugget. easy child tells him that it is her dinner and asks him not to eat them. He pops a tater tot in his mouth and beligerantly says, "What's the big deal, they're sitting on the counter in MY house". Well, those kind of comments just really bother me. First of all, I hate when he says stupid **** about it being HIS house - we all live here, it's all our house. And it's fair to share, but I personally think it's rude to just help yourself to what is obviously someone's food sitting there on a plate. easy child gets annoyed but leaves it alone. Then I asked him, "Do you want the burgers I took out for dinner or the quiche easy child is making?" H was mad now because of easy child telling him not to eat her food so he says to ME, "Do whatever you want!" and walks off to the shower. So, before he gets into the shower, I asked him again. He repeats what he said earlier. I ignore him now and just go off to the spare room to do my homework on line. When H got out of the shower, he went into the kitchen and noisily began making the burgers. When I went out there, he asked me if I wanted one, I said yes, etc. During dinner, he was snotty so I called him on it - "what is your problem? I can't believe you were so snotty to me about making dinner, I got in after 6PM, only 30 minutes before you, you're almost 50 years old - you should be able to handle dinner once in a while" and he complains that I didn't make dinner and went off to do my HW instead while he was hungry. Then I repeat that at his age, he should be able to handle a couple of burgers if he's hungry and that it would be nice for him to make dinner more often and stop being such a big baby about it. And that is when he tells me he is REALLY angry with easy child for being so stingy with her food and he's angry because she snapped at him for eating the chicken nugget and tater tot. WTH? Really? It all sounds like baby boy BS to me. I am siding with easy child on this one, even though I really do not think that this is what his problem is really about. I think we're both going through something but I just can't put my finger on it. I know on my end I'm done taking care of everyone. Between going to school and working full time, I expect H to pick up where I cannot and to be more supportive. He has told me he supports my going to school, but his actions say otherwise. And he has said, "I hate when you're in school" (because he needs to be more self reliant). I just don't have the patience for an overgrown toddler. And I KNOW easy child wishes she didn't live here. Opinions please (other than my H is an ass).