Hi! I'm new here, and learning quickly. Growing up, my 13 year old daughter was always a little difficult; however, over the past two years, her behaviors have spiraled. She is by far no longer a little difficult. We finally found a name for it (recently) oppositional defiant disorder. Prior to this, we had seen a counselor, but couldn't put a name to the symptoms. Instead, she told me this is simply normal teenage stuff (keep in mind this counselor would only talk to our daughter and would not consider a family modality or talking to us). I initially believed her (last summer- I guess I figured it had been a rough year, and maybe the transition into middle school was influencing it), but my daughters behaviors got continuously worse. She is constantly moody, angry, and the slightest littlest things will set her off (I'm talking something so petty most kids wouldn't even notice). She has a mouth like a trucker (not that me or her father swear often, definitely never to that extent) and is constantly going off at someone (us, grandparents, teachers, friends, the list goes on). If you ask her to do something in the house (such as clean her room) its like the house becomes a battle zone. She is constantly annoyed with her sister, even when her sister isn't interacting with her (for example, if there both in the kitchen together). Yet, in her mind, she is always the victim. Perfect example, earlier today she told her sister to f-off, and I didn't yell, but told her to knock it off and apologize. Somehow she's the victim because she didn't like what her sister was doing (according to my eldest she was acting like a 'baby' and that essentially set her off). But she's always the victim, regardless of the situation. And I think whats worse, is she constantly blames us- we can do no right (it doesn't matter what it is, somehow or another, we did it, even when were not even there!) So my question is, how does anyone do this. How do your kids with ODD react when told no? What suggestions do you have? I knew the teenage years would be rough (I mean come on, I was young once), but with this, I can't even imagine what I'm going to experience. Its rough, my husband and I are constantly stressed out, awaiting the next battle to erupt.