Was it wrong of me to pack upi difficult child's room. Not all of it, but most of it is in bins or has been tossed out. I had to get the room ready for my sister and her H anyway. And I figured since difficult child will be home Saturday for my mom's birthday it might give her a little jolt to see that her room has kind of been cleared out a little. I packed away all her summer stuff, so essentially, her drawers are empty except one with pj's in it. And her closet crap has been cleaned out and I've made space for some of my belongings. And I packed up all her poetry and drawing books, supplies, etc. into a bin & labeled it. And I packed up all her many handbags. I put away all her leftover beauty stuff and nail stuff and thousands of deoderants and cleared all the shelves and dresser tops and put away some of her stuffed animals too. So it looks like her room still, but way less cluttered and kind of like a guest room. Was that good or not? I feel good about it. I don't feel like I made it devoid of 'her' but I wanted her to see that she's made her choice and that we're not pining away for her to come home.