Well hello friends, you dear people who didn't not answer the phone when I called or didn't return calls when I called or looked at me down your noses when you saw me or gossiped about my parenting when I needed help, You people are wonderful. Update, Rap boy who you may remember is doing much, much better. we went through hell from the end of 9th until end of 10th grade and he was hell bent on getting out of the private school where I taught if you remember. Well I found a charter/college high school program that has been a Godsend. It allows him heaps of freedom in dress and diversity but allows him to get college credit for the last two years of high school. He is currently at 3 79s and the rest all his classes are As! So there is something to be said for being in the right fit. He is sliding back into his ways with the foul mouth rap now that the newness of having a car and going to college classes has worn off. Now it's just hard work at a commuter community college atmosphere and he is understandably a bit lonely. But so happy! Well we found pornography and told him it was time for a few warnings. Aside from being grounded he was told if he produces any foul music for the internet his equipment will be locked up in storage until he leaves the house. Of course his comment "How much does an apt. cost?" We discussed all that and also said if he is involved in any sex, drugs or drinking in his car it will be sold immediately. He seemed compliant. Today I read text messages that revealed his true self again. He was planning on having sex after school at our home. I took care of the girl pretty handily with threats. The flippant, foul language and the laze faire attitute towards sex was shocking! I told her I locked the messages and would send them to her folks if she came around my son again. Now I still have his phone but am reasonably sure she is out of the picture. What should the consequences be? Should he be driven to school on the days I work by his dad so he cant be home alone? I know he could just have sex with someone else in their car or home without us knowing it except that I activated a gps on his phone to know his whereabouts. Any advice would so be appreciated. He is 17 by the way.